At first you feel rejected. Then you feel used. You don’t feel smart anymore. And then you let all your crazed emotional states get the better of you, and you start to stalk him with calls, texts. You even talk to your friends about this whole debacle, over and over again.
You review every little thing that went down with this new guy: every word, every sentence, every text message the two of you shared. You want to figure out exactly what you did wrong in this scenario and why he’s not calling anymore. Honestly … what a waste of time.
What a waste of energy and what a waste of self-confidence that you’re throwing out the window. How many times are you going to go down this road and realize that this is a road you should never go down again? A road you should never have gone down after the first time? Which road is that? It’s called Rejection Highway.
Here’s the deal. You made that choice to sleep with him, and after that time, or after a few times, he did not call you anymore. He made that choice not to call you. So he wasn’t who you thought he was. No big deal. It’s OK, because most people aren’t exactly who you think they are right in the beginning. So, now you have to ask yourself: are you going to allow somebody who you don’t really know that well to have all this power over you?
To tell you the truth, he did you a favor by dropping off the radar because he’s actually an ass and he actually showed his true colors pretty early on. You should be happy that he didn’t call you. You should be happy to find out so early that all he was after was sex, because you deserve somebody who wants to emotionally connect with you at whatever level you want. You deserve to spend your time with someone who understands you and is respectful of you, and you don’t have to wait three months into dating him to find that out.”